Aunt Fancy

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  New here

  by Elbear in

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  i'm a female jw who has been lurking for a little while but finally has the balls to post something.

  i am in need of adivce and help.

  i still feel a little nervous typing out these words on an "apostate" website.. i am a born-in jw, 4th generation.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Welcome Elbear, there was a lot of excellent advise given. I would suggest reading the books by Ray Franz and Steve Hassen and if after reading them you still have anxiety then I would seek out someone who can help you deal with this. There also is a reason why you are using the brownies so look inward to see why you are and are they really helping or making you worse. You are young and have a wonderful future ahead of you free to be whatever you choose and if your desire is to continue with more education then go for your dreams. You have the opportunity to get out now before you end up like my husband and me who are in our late 50's and finding out the real truth and trying to start over with meeting people and getting all of the garbage out of our head!! I wish you a healthy, happy and free life!!
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  My Wife's Father Passed Away

  by TOTH in

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  well, the day finally arrived.

  everyone says we were expecting it...but, not really.

  my wife's dad passed away.. he suffered for many years and we were at odds about medications and intrusiveness, but he was just a man in great pain, desperate for relief.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Sorry for your loss. Those memorial talks aren't very upbuilding at all, just one big infomercial!
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  slavenomore

  by Slavenomore in

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  leaving the org was not a doctrinal choice for me as it was for many on this board.

  i left mentally because of the boredom and then i physically left by being dfd.

  i have been reading here for about a month or so and now i know i made the right decision.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Welcome Slavenomore! Stay on your journey and continue to read and search, it does get much better with time.
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  May 2013 Awake suggests screaming to thwart sexual assault

  by ParadiseCircus in

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  they just can't let it go.... .

  they also provide this tip to avoid being raped: "react quickly.

  scream.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Wow Lady Lee, not only were you violated and raped but then to be disfellowshipped on top of it! They are truly disgusting to abuse you after going through such trauma. I see why you help others and I am sure it has helped you in the healing process but I am sure you never get over it.
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  May 2013 Awake suggests screaming to thwart sexual assault

  by ParadiseCircus in

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  they just can't let it go.... .

  they also provide this tip to avoid being raped: "react quickly.

  scream.

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  Aunt Fancy

  This is disgusting! 45 years ago I was walking by myself and was approached by a man in his car. He asked me for directions and i gave them to him and then he got out of his car and pulled a large knife on me and told me to get in the car or he would kill me. It was a small town with no crime and we were never instructed back then on how to handle these situations but I took off and ran to the nearest house. Thank heavens my instincts told me to run! I never screamed because I was so scared. When I saw he got in his car and left I then ran the rest of the way home. When I came into the house my Mom said I was so white and they knew I wasn't telling a story because I nearly collapsed. This nonsense about screaming drives me nuts!! It does work in some situations but you do whatever will save your life! I was angry when I read all the flip flopping about their views on rape and women screaming and the fact that years ago women were disfellowshipped for not screaming during a rape. These men who make up these barbaric rules are disgusting and I can't even say what should be done with them!! Needless to say, I have NO respect for them!
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  Looking for a disassociation letter

  by Aunt Fancy in

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  i remember reading a very good letter sometime within the past 6 months.

  i have been looking for it and can't find it.

  i don't even remember who wrote it but they didn't send it at the time.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Thank you Giordano and Free. There was one that I looked for but can't find and the person wrote it and posted it in case someone wanted to use it. It was an excellent letter but I can't remember who wrote it. It has been in the past year.
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  shunning wrecks families

  by bigmac in

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  thread started to avoid going off topic elsewhere.. this matter of shunning---my story.. i made the decision to resign from the jw religion in my early twenties--i'm 65 now.

  i knew i would never deny any of mine a blood transfusion--just to appease this religion --and its deity.. my jw wife had just had our first child--a girl---and we went on over the next 7 years to have 2 more planned for kids---both boys.

  i like to think i was a good dad--they meant everything to me.. i hold up my hand and admit i caused the break up of that marriage---my wife stayed in the religion--and--apparently it was announced in the kh i couldnt be d/f'd---as i hadnt been a jw for years---so they said i was an apostate.. fast forward a few years--into the mid 80's---i had remarried--and led a relatively normal life.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Wow Bigmac, that is such a sad story. It makes me angry that so many good people have lost their families because of the WTBTS. They have so much blood on their hands because of their disgusting rules. I hope some day you will be able to reconnect with the rest of your family.
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  My decision about "family shunning"

  by Gojira_101 in

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  since i've been off work this week because of spring break, i've really been missing my grandma.

  when i have left wt (i'm fading and april will be 6 months) and i told her about january, she has been shunning me.

  i told myself "i will respect her wishes/decision..etc" this morning i woke up and said "to hell with shunning!

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  Aunt Fancy

  If I were in your situation I would keep it loving and kind at this point. If you start to give her some TTATT you might shut her down where she won't read it because you want to gain her trust and you want her to read them. I would also read the Steve Hassen books before you go beyond loving cards so you know how the best way to handle it and that way you might get some results. Take it slowly for now.
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  My decision about "family shunning"

  by Gojira_101 in

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  2. beliefs

  since i've been off work this week because of spring break, i've really been missing my grandma.

  when i have left wt (i'm fading and april will be 6 months) and i told her about january, she has been shunning me.

  i told myself "i will respect her wishes/decision..etc" this morning i woke up and said "to hell with shunning!

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  Aunt Fancy

  Good for you!! You never know what sending a loving card will do. You set the right example and no one can ever say you deserted your grandmother. I too doubt your aunt would bother with going to court over cards. You have to live with your conscience and I agree, don't let the WTS dictate how you are going to act. They are a bunch of unloving jerks, that is putting it mildly.
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  JW women in critical condition after being attacked by pit bull while out in service

  by JimmyPage in

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  http://www.tulsaworld.com/news/article.aspx?subjectid=11&articleid=20130319_11_0_twowom831238.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Such a sad story. I hope both women recover and the others involved heal from the trauma of witnessing this attack.